kindness & karma week: in the bloggointerwebbowhatsispheroid

April 27, 2010

let's switch gears a bit.  yesterday was about showing some kindness to ourselves; today is about showing some kindness to them.  that's right.  them.  the others, both friends and strangers.

did you like that LOST reference?  i'm sure jon didn't.  i couldn't help it, it was too tasty delicious. sorry.

every day our world is conducted more and more online.  i interact far more with people on facebook, through email, text message, twitter, and of course as we're all bloggers, in the bloggosphere, much more than i do with people in real life.  when you're at a computer screen looking at the words that someone typed it's easy to forget there are real people on the other side.

that's exactly how we end up with techno-bullying debacles.  that's why trolls exist- people who use the anonymity of the internet to forget about the people beyond the screens and say hateful ridiculous things that we would never walk up and say to a stranger in a store.  but that sacred anonymity of the internet can also work to our advantage.  i can put myself out there to strangers, expose delicate emotions, and forge new friendships that i wouldn't have had the gumption to do otherwise.

the faces on the other side of the screen- there is another person on the other end of the magical connection that is the internet worrying about what to have for dinner, stressing about swimsuit season, fighting with their mom.  we really only share a portion of ourselves here, not a full picture.  you never see the entire story.

the things we do online, though it sounds silly, are quite real.  there are real life ramifications for things that happen online.  i choose for the impact i have to be a positive one not a negative one.

so here's my challenge for myself, and for you if you're in:
make your online presence a positive one.  take all those crap feelings that you feel about yourself and assume that the person you're interacting with probably feels exactly the same way.  reach out and give a new stranger a pat on the back.  comment, tweet, retweet, email, "like," and share.  i guarantee you that every comment you make gives someone a real life happy flutter cup of blueberry iced coffee (ok, maybe that's just me).  maybe on a day when their car broke down and their dog threw up and their kid is screaming and you don't even know.  i can show a stranger with a few clicks of my mouse that i'm there and they aren't alone in a nameless faceless internet world.  and you might not hear anything back from them, or you might make a new friend.  but you can also feel good about yourself that you're putting positive things out there.  happy breeds happy.

i'm not advocating commenting for commenting's sake, but if every comment you leave someone new makes them feel as good as my comments here make ME feel?  holy shit.  we can lift each other up to the sky.  and i'm not perfect.  i'm busy and i don't always get to leave the comments i want to.  but i'm trying to keep in the back of my brain that the person on the other end of that computer is scratching through the same damn existence on this pale blue dot that i am- and i can make it a better one.

a big THANK YOU to those of you that posted about your participation yesterday and i encourage you to go read:

RenderMeMama: Kindness & Karma week 1.0
My Cheap Version of Therapy: United on a Pale Blue Dot
The Accidental Olympian: Kindness & Karma Week
Code Name: Mama: Dirt & Discipline 

if you join in and post about anything Kindness and Karma this week be sure to let me know at thegrumbles {at} hotmail {dot} com, and i'll share the love.  if you want to participate or just show your support grab a badge here.

on tap tomorrow:  kindness and karma in real life.  this shit's getting real, yo.




Awesome challenge. :) There is so much goodness in this post.


I've been thinking about this a lot lately. I've met so many amazing women through my blog (you were the first follower not related to me, by the way! you nominated my lil' old blog for the beautiful blogger award and I just about lost my shit, you made me so happy!)and it irks me that people can be so cruel to each other.

I agree with Penelope, so so much goodness in this post. Thanks Jamie!

Dionna @ Code Name: Mama

I totally agree. With some very rare exceptions, I try to refrain from sarcasm and anger in my comments/tweets - I'd much rather make friends (because Lord knows I need them!). Besides, I love getting positive feedback on my posts - why not share the love?

wrestling kitties

Tru Dat! I like this one in particular

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