so, i think we can all agree that we receive scores upon scores of unsolicited advice– from strangers, from your mom, from your dad's cousin's great grandmother, from that lady on the second floor of your office building. and well, it's crap. the advice is generally unwelcome, not well received, and often... wrong.
but– in a stirring twist of events i have actually received excellent advice that stuck with me. (like, once... but still, it's possible.)
when we first brought jude home jon was talking on the phone with his grandmother, who is just the dearest and the sweetest, and she heard jude crying in the background. she asked if we were breastfeeding, and jon said yes. and she said, "if he cries, just feed him. you can't over-feed him right now."
it was in the very first days, the days when the doctor tells you to write down every move your baby makes, to time your feedings on each side and blah blah blah. they make it seem so complicated and you're exhausted and in an unfamiliar world. that tiny bit of advice carried me through some long long nights. jude would cry and i would be in a panic. he only ate an hour ago! in my sleep-deprived condition it was literally more than i handle to use my common sense. and i would think of her and suddenly remember. YES! let's try that. and 90% of the time it got us back on track.
have you ever received some excellent advice (parenting or otherwise)
that has saved your ass?