Comments on grumbles and grunts: All that stuff I don't get comes so easy to him; h...

Oh, I remember the arguments about absolutely noth...

2010-02-13T17:50:33.407-05:00

Oh, I remember the arguments about absolutely nothing, so well!

What a sweet post! It's so wonderful to see me...

2010-02-10T18:47:35.088-05:00

What a sweet post! It's so wonderful to see men fall right into place with being a daddy, and parenting.

I love this post! Supportive, nurturing daddies a...

2010-02-10T17:13:05.053-05:00

I love this post! Supportive, nurturing daddies are SO FANTASTIC!

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An item-fetching robot! That's what I need! Al...

2010-02-10T17:00:40.884-05:00

An item-fetching robot! That's what I need! All right, it's more what Sam needs, since I use him just the same way, and he also never complains about it.

There's so much you've written here that reminds me of me. I'm totally the details person, too, where I can't figure out why Sam doesn't remember to get the kid's toothbrush ready, to put his jammy pants on, etc., when meanwhile he's been amusing him for two solid hours playing trucks. He does the important stuff, is what I'm saying.

And, yes, the sleep thing does get better. But it's long while you're in the midst of it.

P.S. I had to snag your pirate dog button. Beyond awesome.

So sweet! I love those daddy and son pics. My husb...

2010-02-10T12:16:26.039-05:00

So sweet! I love those daddy and son pics. My husband has also pleasantly surprised me with how well he's taken to natural parenting concepts.

Oh Touche. There is nothing like seeing your two ...

2010-02-10T07:20:03.748-05:00

Oh Touche. There is nothing like seeing your two boys together to make your heart explode. Having a child is a maker or breaker for any relationship and it's amazing when it's the former.

Babies add so much stress. We ended up having to s...

2010-02-09T23:50:53.564-05:00

Babies add so much stress. We ended up having to sleep in different rooms because when I roused to breastfeed, I couldn't fall back asleep because of the snoring so I would wake him up. For some reason that made him mad. :) So we'd end up yelling/being mad at each other every night at 3 a.m. Someday soon, I will night wean and maybe he'll get his snoring fixed and we'll be snuggling in bed again.

My husband doesn't take care of the kids the way I would, but that's OK. They need to have their own relationship, which might include "Dad doesn't brush my hair right or tie my shoes tight enough."

What an adventure and I wouldn't want to do it without him.

Thanks for the honest, beautiful post. I'm wit...

2010-02-09T20:35:45.028-05:00

Thanks for the honest, beautiful post. I'm with you about your heart exploding when you see your husband interacting with your boy. Watching my man with my girls makes my heart burst, too.

Again, another beautifully written post Jamie. I k...

2010-02-09T16:54:45.962-05:00

Again, another beautifully written post Jamie. I knew I'd love watching G become a dad, but had no idea just how much it would melt my heart. One of my favorite things is seeing him kiss his little boy on his way to work and how excited he is to hold him when he gets home at night. Sometimes it's so hard running off of such little sleep and I do seem to have less patience lately. We're not introducing a bottle for quite some time now and so I am the only person feeding. G said that people at his work ask him, "So you're probably not sleeping so well these days, huh?" and he says, "Not really! It's crazy!" And then tells me that in reality he has been sleeping just great.

It's been moments like this when you have to bite your tongue and sleepily try to smile. His mother told me that it's so easy to feel like one person is doing more work than the other and that can lead to unnecessary arguments. So lately I've just been trying to focus on how great G is with Henry and how much he really does help out in other ways.

After all, I can't even imagine how helpless I would feel if I didn't have the boobs. Poor guy!!

You are lucky to have Jon, sounds like he's a great daddy and a wonderful husband. I can tell he's just crazy about you two!!

The fatigue really can eat away at your patience. ...

2010-02-09T16:34:07.452-05:00

The fatigue really can eat away at your patience. And your sanity. And pretty much anything else it can get its hands on.

Luckily, the good parts are better than the bad parts. Mostly. And I am here to tell you as a mama of a 5-year-old and an 18-month-old that the fatigue does abate. Or you get used to it, but either way. They don't always eat every 2 hours around the clock.

I totally know what you mean about the TIRED bicke...

2010-02-09T16:23:40.352-05:00

I totally know what you mean about the TIRED bickering. Ugh. Writing on this subject is really a good way to be reminded how lucky we are because sometimes that tired bickering makes me forget.
Thanks for a heartfelt post.

Super gorgeous photos! You're lucky to have a ...

2010-02-09T16:11:20.343-05:00

Super gorgeous photos! You're lucky to have a husband who likes to wear his baby. Mine never wanted to. It was akin to holding my purse in public I think. Just not something men do. He's fabulous in other areas and of course I loved carrying my babies so I never complained, but a part of me wishes he'd been more into it. I love the sight of a man slinging his child.

Your story sounds just like me! I never in a mill...

2010-02-09T15:16:47.270-05:00

Your story sounds just like me! I never in a million years would have thought I'd land on this side of the crunchy continuum, but I also should have given myself more credit. I mean, I didn't even spank my dog when I was training him!

Our partners definitely need to hear what we love about their parenting more often. I'm pretty sure about that. I'll be sharing with mine tonight :)

It's definitely not "extended" - it&...

2010-02-09T12:42:33.712-05:00

It's definitely not "extended" - it's normal :) I prefer the term "full-term" breastfeeding myself, for that very reason.

Parenting is os much easier hen your spouse is you...

2010-02-09T12:01:32.385-05:00

Parenting is os much easier hen your spouse is your partner, rather than your aversary.

This is a beautiful post. Very well put.

2010-02-09T11:47:56.334-05:00

This is a beautiful post. Very well put.

Ooooh...this just makes me want a baby SO badly. W...

2010-02-09T11:46:47.893-05:00

Ooooh...this just makes me want a baby SO badly. We hung out with a good friend of DH last night who was in town with his 4 yr old...and DH is SOOOO good with her. Just makes my heart melt. Someday! It's great to hear stories from people who have very involved, supportive significant others!

This sounds so much like my husband and me! I was ...

2010-02-09T10:46:20.033-05:00

This sounds so much like my husband and me! I was amazed when I was pregnant and started thinking attachment parenting and he was 100% on board.

I LOVE men wearing their babies too! Every time we...

2010-02-09T08:43:33.674-05:00

I LOVE men wearing their babies too! Every time we went out, Louis always wanted to wear Athena. He's also beyond supportive when it comes to breastfeeding. He's so educated on it and I love overhearing him give advice to people. Co-sleeping is the one place where we DO.NOT.MESH. Lots of arguments over Athena sleeping with me. Now that the second one is on the way I feel like freaking out.

Love it! T is totally "on board" also. I...

2010-02-09T01:46:18.295-05:00

Love it! T is totally "on board" also. It makes life so much easier when your husband or partner supports you in your decisions. He has always been totally supportive and sometimes he makes arguments for things and sites studies that I didn't ever KNOW about that involve attachment parenting. Plus, there isn't much sexier than a man wearing his baby.